This is a tribute website and we don't want to dwell on why he died, however we cannot get away from the fact that he was going through distressing divorce proceedings which at times left him terribly upset and stressed.
We feel that the British divorce laws should be enforced and will be speaking to our local MP about this.
Myths and false information
There is speculation, rumours and false information going around we would like to dispel some of those:
- The house he died in was empty
- No one lived there
- It was up for sale
- It was clear of all possessions and furniture
- No one else was in the house
- He did not have any money worries
- He adored his children and his girlfriend Nicole
- There were no drugs or alcohol in his blood (Confirmed in official toxicology reports)
He loved that house and saw it as the pinnacle of his success and how he had provided for his family along with their other two properties. Our theory is that he went back to see it, maybe knowing it would be the last time as it was having to be sold for the divorce, he was losing everything and something snapped and the Steve we know and love disappeared to be replaced with someone extremely depressed who could not think straight about what they were doing.
We cannot think of any other explanation as the Steve we know and love would never have left his children, Nicole or us.
Thinking of divorce?
We know marriages break down, it is a part of life and we accept that, but before you get caught up in the legal process please look into the options of mediation.
Steve really wanted mediation, he wanted to sit down and talk things through, he booked mediation sessions. We feel the system completely let him down.
More details here on mediation options: Divorce and Mediation
If we can save just one person going through what Steve did and what we are now going through, this page will be worth while.
Need help or support?
We found comfort in the following sites:
Have you been affected by the loss of a loved one? NHS Live Well/Dealing with loss might help
Have you Suffered loss through suicide?
SOBS Survivors of Bereavement by Suicide, a fantastic support network which we have found to be extremely useful.
NHS Live Well: Coping after suicide
Need to talk?
Samaritans - Free confidential help
PLEASE, PLEASE - talk to someone if things get you down to the point where you feel suicide is the only option.